In no case should I be seen as a fool. Set my line firmly, set my own principles, and express my true opinion to the other person. At first, unpleasant feelings may inevitably arise.
However, if you maintain a sincere attitude until the end, anyone who will go with you will soon recognize and respect my principles of life.
Keep in mind that the real thing to pursue in a relationship is a really good person who is happy and pleases others, not a person who is just receding. Second, don't just say good things. Sometimes, you need to know how to say bad things When it comes to relationships, whether it's personal or public
In order to create a good relationship, you must be strict like a small man at first and bold like a gentleman later Even if it seems a bit tricky to the other person, be honest about the situation you don't want and the principles you want to protect in the beginning, the extent to which you ask for and receive help
In most cases, it is caused by not saying anything unpleasant in the first place.
It is good to care about the other person's feelings and be considerate not to put others in trouble or disappointment, but you should never adjust to others because you are afraid to reveal your true thoughts Third, don't get closer to the person who hurts me
It's no use talking long and arguing with people who force their own thoughts and hurt me.
It's best to just try not to get tired until the end of the conversation.
And even after enduring it firmly, you don't have to get close to the person who hurt you.
When you don't have energy, you just have to be nice to people who treat you sincerely and nicely
Fourth, when you have to be strong, go strong. Allowing others too much is abuse against me. It is also good to look gentle and nice in general.
Confidence If you need it, you should also have confidence, a weapon that can fight for yourself. When you have to be strong, when you have to be soft, only those who know how to change smoothly can protect themselves in human relationships.
Fifth Don't beg for the intimacy and trust of your opponent with dedication and submission To be sure you know everything about your opponent and try to do more for him indicates that you are by nature good and very arrogant.
This is because you already put yourself above the other person at the point where you believe that you understand everyone else.
In addition, what I thought was a good deed may also have technically been judged and acted at my own discretion.
If you wanted to gain the intimacy and trust of others in exchange for your endless dedication and submission, even if the start was good, you are likely to end up with unfair and frustrating results contrary to what you wanted.
Sixth
Just put all your time and energy into your growth. There are many people who are full of complaints but persistently continue their commitment.
Maybe it's because I'm afraid of my opponent leaving, afraid of thinking of myself as unnecessary, and most of all, I'm worried about losing my place to rely on and having to stand on my own.
But whatever it is, it's not real intimacy, it's just an act out of fear.
If this is what a good relationship is like, please stop acting right now and admit your immaturity honestly. Remember that a person is too much to take care of himself, so he needs to devote his time and all his strength to growing up rather than committing himself to others. Refuse violence named Seventh Love violently
Families often love us in ways that parents believe their spouses, sometimes friends believe they are right.
They say things that make too much sense at first glance, and this is how life should beThey are busy advising that they should live like that, but there is a fact that they have overlooked.
There is no one in the world who was born to live the way others want.
If you really love someone, you have to respect the other person's choice and let them live the way they want Nevertheless, the easiest violence in the name of love is to deprive the other person of the right to choose.
If love is made up of only one unilateral action, it is better not to have such love
I also have to be wary that I'm not that kind of person When you have to refuse for the eighth time, be sure to reject it firmly. In human relationships, you should not respond rashly to unreasonable demands because you are afraid that others will be disappointed or acknowledge your value It's the same no matter who the other person is
Of course, it is never easy for a person who doesn't know how to say no to learn to say no.
But truth is the credit of life, and promise is to owe to others.
Therefore, it is a much wiser choice for me and the other person to enjoy only what they can promise and enjoy within their limits.
Ninth, don't be swayed by other people's thoughts
You don't always have to care what other people think.
Since each person has different ways of thinking and wants, it is never easy to pinpoint other people's thoughts or feelings no matter how hard they try.
Likewise, others do not know and understand my thoughts or feelings as they are Just accepting this fact
You can live a wise life without looking at others.
If you accept the possibility of something unfair to be misunderstood in your mind, you can put down all your anxiety and create a more calm and resolute inner side.
My life is a history that I write myself.
It's not up to others to decide whether to be nice or not, but it's up to me to choose for myself
Furthermore, we must abide by that choice Don't be discouraged by the evaluation of others 10th, because people become arrogant and ignore others because they only care about themselves and don't see the value of others.
In other words, just because someone ignores me doesn't mean I'm lacking in ability or somewhere.
So just because others treat me coldly
Don't think of yourself as incompetent. The evaluation of others has nothing to do with my actual value.
If you focus on your own feelings and thoughts rather than evaluations of others, you don't even have time to care about other people's eyes.
I hope these 10 relationship wisdoms will be of great help to your relationship.
Thank you.
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